If You Notice These Signs in Your Marriage, It’s Time to Rethink Your Relationship

Nietzsche once said, “Marriage is unhappy not because of a lack of love, but because of a lack of friendship.”

Friendship requires mutual understanding, communication, and help. Without these, friendship is difficult to maintain.

Marriage is the same. To achieve happiness, it requires joint effort and maintenance from both parties. Marriage hates laziness; the more you neglect it, the more it will make you feel unhappy.

The emotions between spouses need to be maintained in a balanced and stable state. If you ignore it when you’re busy and try to pick it up when you’re free, it might be too late.

You should be diligent in your marriage, reflect on your own behavior, and timely rescue your feelings when they’re affected.

Otherwise, if you notice these signs in your marriage, it’s time to rethink your relationship.

You Only See Each Other’s Flaws

Xiuling has been married for seven years, and their marriage life has undergone significant changes. The loving words they used to exchange have turned into mutual criticism, and they can no longer see each other’s strengths.

Her husband always criticizes her figure, saying she has changed a lot since giving birth and doesn’t dress up anymore. He also complains about her temper.

Every time Xiuling hears her husband’s criticizing words, she feels hurt and frustrated.

In Xiuling’s eyes, her husband doesn’t understand or care about her. He’s more willing to hang out with friends than help her take care of their child. This kind of life has been going on for years, and she has long wanted to leave this family.

As Jane Austen said, “Whether a marriage is happy or not is entirely a matter of chance. Even if a couple understands each other very well or has similar temperaments, it doesn’t guarantee their happiness. They will eventually drift apart and annoy each other.”

Just like this couple, if you only see each other’s flaws, your marriage will be difficult to sustain. To rescue it, you need to overlook each other’s flaws and focus on the strengths.

Many couples experience this situation: during courtship, a single word or small action from their partner can make them feel happy and amused.

This situation often occurs during the entire courtship phase and the early stages of marriage.

However, as they live together for a longer period, with various pressures and responsibilities, many things become routine and no longer seem amusing.

This is a normal phenomenon, indicating that the two people have a deeper understanding of each other and have matured in their thinking.

But if you no longer laugh together over the same things, it’s time to rethink your marriage.

This indicates that your lives are not on the same wavelength, and you’ve lost the desire to make each other happy. Your marriage life has become dull and lacks excitement.

A dull marriage is the most damaging to a couple’s feelings.

As Salinger said, “You should marry someone who shares your sense of humor.”

A fun marriage life is the best way to maintain a couple’s feelings.

You No Longer Argue

Lulu is a bit of a spoiled girl. When she first got married, she and her husband would argue over small things. After each argument, her husband would coax her and buy her favorite snacks.

Lulu liked arguing because it made her feel that her husband cared about her.

However, Lulu later discovered that her husband no longer wanted to argue with her. When she complained about her dissatisfaction, he would ignore her, not trying to coax her or buy her snacks anymore.

Lulu thought this was just a temporary situation or that her husband was too tired to argue. Later, she realized that her husband had changed and no longer cared about her, nor did he want to argue with her.

If there are no arguments between spouses, it’s a very dangerous sign. Even if one party initiates a fight, if the other party is too lazy to respond, it only shows that they’re no longer concerned about the marriage.

As Mroue said, “A marriage without conflicts is almost as unimaginable as a country without crises.”

A marriage without arguments is like stagnant water, losing its vitality. If you notice this sign, it’s time to rethink your marriage.

Berke said, “The person you marry is the one you think is most suitable for you when you’re most vulnerable.”

Marriage is originally meant to bring two lonely people together, letting them walk hand in hand.

In marriage, when you’re most lonely, helpless, and need help, you naturally think of your partner, because they’re your only reliance.

If you no longer think of your partner first, preferring to bear the burden alone rather than talk to them, your marriage is in danger.

Marriage is a continuous process, and if the two people are no longer willing to connect with each other, they’ll gradually drift apart until they’re strangers.

If you notice these signs in your marriage, it’s time to rethink your relationship, and there might still be a chance to rescue it.