I Like a Girl, But I Don’t Know What to Talk to Her About Every Day

She is the type I really like, and she is happy to chat with me, but I feel that our conversations are very monotonous. Every day, it’s about work, what we are doing, and what we are eating.

I feel like this won’t impress her at all.

I know she has many suitors, and I don’t want someone else to snatch her away.

What should I do?

1. Remember to Avoid the “Friend Zone”

Many men easily fall into the “friend zone” while chatting with women.

At first, the woman likes you, but every time you chat with her, it feels very ordinary, no different from other men. Over time, she categorizes your relationship as friendship, making it more difficult to develop further.

When a woman shows interest in you, pay attention:

The biggest interest indicator is when she starts asking you questions, hoping to extract your information and value from your answers.

How should you answer when a woman asks a question?

Treat her as your pursuer, not as someone you are pursuing!

The benefit of doing this is that it often creates a relatively ambiguous chatting atmosphere and can strengthen your relationship. It also shows your sense of humor.

2. Create Scenarios, Misinterpret the Woman’s Pursuit of You

Let’s take some examples:

1. “How tall are you?”

You should imagine her question as, “Are you tall enough for us to date?”

You should answer, “When I pick you up, you should be able to hear my heartbeat.”

2. “Do you like me?”

You should imagine her question as, “I quite like you, do you like me?”

You should answer, “More than you like me.”

3. “Can you cook?”

You should imagine her question as, “Can you cook? I want to taste your cooking.”

You should answer, “Yes, have you bought the ingredients?”

This is called the “assumed reverse pursuit” chatting mindset, where you consider the other person’s words as questions thrown out while pursuing you.

3. Never Show “Low Value” During Conversations

Let’s use an example to illustrate.

“Have you got abs?”

How would you answer this question?

Some would show value: “Of course, I work out every day.”

Some would flirt: “You come and feel.”

Some would say directly, “No.”

Or you can choose, “Next time, I’ll let you see.”

If you say, “You come and feel,” in most cases, the woman might reply, “No.”

Because you gave her the opportunity to refuse, you are asking her to do something and are giving her the initiative.

If you say, “Of course, I work out every day,” it shows that you are trying to prove yourself, and being eager to prove yourself can make you appear of low value, making it easy for women to see you as a loser.

“Next time, I’ll let you see.” The essence of this statement is that it sounds like she wants to see your abs.

Woman: “Do you have abs? I want to see your abs.”

Man: “Next time, I’ll let you see.”

Of course, “I want to see your abs” is just an assumption in your mind, but assuming that the woman is pursuing you is necessary to achieve the “assumed reverse pursuit” effect.

When you chat with every woman using the assumed reverse pursuit mindset, you create a feeling of being pursued by many women. After successfully implanting the concept of “reverse pursuit” in the woman’s subconscious, she will seriously consider whether she really likes you.