“I Didn’t Know My Ex-Wife Was a Gem Until We Got Divorced”
Marriage is not the ultimate destination of love. Sometimes, even after getting married, it doesn’t mean you’ll grow old together.
Li Ao said, “A woman has only one way of looking at marriage, while a man has a thousand ways.”
When a woman thinks about living a good life with a man, the man might not think the same way. That’s why people often say men have many tricks up their sleeves.
You never know what the person in front of you will decide to do next.
Years ago, Wang’s aunt got divorced. She was a very kind and gentle woman, but she didn’t get the love and respect she deserved from her husband.
In the end, it was her husband who initiated the divorce, leaving Wang’s aunt in tears.
After the divorce, Wang’s aunt had many suitors. Her ex-husband said, “I didn’t know my ex-wife was a gem until we got divorced. It was me who didn’t appreciate her.”
Later, when Wang’s aunt and her ex-husband ran into each other, he wanted to remarry her, but she had already moved on.
Some things you only realize after you’ve lost them, and it’s too late. Maybe the person in front of you is a gem, but you only regret it later, and there’s no regret medicine.
See the Good in the Person in Front of You
Happy people in life can see the good in the person in front of them. When you see the good in the person in front of you, your heart will feel satisfied, and your family will become very harmonious.
Xi Murong said, “When you’re young, if you love someone, please treat them gently, no matter how long or short your love lasts. If you can always treat each other gently, every moment will be a beautiful memory. Even if you have to part ways, you should still say goodbye and be grateful, thanking them for the memories.”
Learning to treat others well and yourself is something everyone should do.
In the vast ocean of people, you and the other person met, and among millions of people, you chose each other. This is fate, and it’s also happiness.
So when you’re together, don’t forget your original intention. You must appreciate the other person, and only then will they feel comfortable, and you’ll feel comfortable too.
Some people put in a lot of effort but don’t get anything in return. When someone is in this state for too long, their emotions will collapse. And when you’ve put in a lot of effort and still get dumped, it’s like being pierced by a thousand arrows.
Someone who knows how to treat others well will never make the person in front of them feel this way. Although you might feel comfortable doing things your way, you’ll regret it later.
The Person Staying with You Isn’t Necessarily Unwanted
People often have a psychological state where they think the person staying with them is unwanted, so they’re stuck with them.
Actually, that’s not always the case. The person staying with you might think you’re very important.
It’s not easy to meet someone who appreciates you in life. If you have a wife who always stays with you and quietly makes sacrifices for you, you should be grateful.
Because as a man, marrying a good wife is very important. If a man doesn’t marry a good wife, he’ll suffer in the end, and his family will be in chaos.
People often think the wife staying with them is unwanted, but that’s not correct. So, in today’s society, many people will say, “Don’t love someone too much,” which means when you love someone, don’t give them everything, or they’ll think you’re worthless.
Because when you give them everything, they’ll think you’re trying to please them, and that you’re only staying with them because you have no other choice.
Don’t Wait Until You’ve Lost Them to Appreciate
Smart men will appreciate the person in front of them because some people might lose them and never get them back.
Zhang Zhi Lin said, “Every time we fight, I think about losing her, so I cherish her. I’d rather admit my mistakes and make up with her because I cherish every day with her. Men, admitting mistakes isn’t a big deal, but what’s scary is losing someone and not being able to make up for it.”
Every happy marriage requires a man’s compromise. Women are often more emotional, and the more they love a man, the more they’ll test him because they’re afraid of losing him.
When a woman doesn’t care about the little things in marriage and doesn’t care about her husband’s attitude, it means she’s already fallen out of love.
Qiong Yao said, “A failed marriage is a tragedy; ending a tragedy is the start of a comedy.”
But if you don’t cherish the other person, you’ll end up regretting it, and it won’t be a comedy.
Women Should Find Someone Good for Themselves
Jia Jing Wen said, “I won’t compromise too much for marriage.”
Sometimes, even if you’re divorced, you don’t need to keep compromising. If a dish is spoiled, it’s spoiled, no matter how much you compromise. Love is the same!
So, women shouldn’t think that they can get their partner’s love and care by constantly compromising and giving in. Sometimes, the other person might take advantage of you, so you must find someone who is good to you, someone who values you, even if they’re not rich.
Shakespeare also said, “A hasty marriage is a happy one.”
When getting married, women must think clearly. Marriage is a woman’s second birth; marrying a good man can bring happiness, but marrying a bad man will only bring struggle. Sometimes, the other person might not even see your hard work, which is a huge hurt for women.
Women should be more rational as they grow older, although they might be more emotional in love. But in life, we must think carefully.
Some things, once done, can never be undone; some people, once lost, can never be found again.
Men should learn to cherish their wives and manage their marriages well. Women should also be careful when marrying and not blindly rush into marriage.
