How to Tell If a Man Wants a Relationship or Just Sex?

Understanding Men’s Intentions: Love or Lust

Is He Into You for Love or Just for Fun?

Many female friends are concerned about this topic. Some girls have experienced what they thought was a beautiful relationship, only to find out that they have encountered a deceitful man. The purpose of writing this article is to tell female friends how to avoid pitfalls and identify deceitful men.

For this issue, the first thing we need to determine is:

Does he want a long-term stable relationship, with the purpose of love? Or does he only want a short-term relationship, not entering into life but only into the body?

For a man, whether he wants a long-term relationship or just your body, in the initial stage of acquaintance and early love, he will be extremely caring, attentive, and considerate towards you. Some girls mistakenly think that the man’s efforts are truly because he likes them, so they wholeheartedly invest themselves in this relationship. However, they did not realize that the other party is just playing games with them. Therefore, in the early stages, including the initial acquaintance and ambiguous stage, do not take a man’s kindness, care, and attention too seriously.

So how do you determine whether he wants to date you or just wants to sleep with you? Answer the following questions, and you will probably know his intentions. There are also a few suggestions at the end to help you avoid pitfalls.

Six Indicators to Identify a Deceitful Man

1. Whether he actively cares about your basic situation

Basic situation includes your living status, work status, interests, social circle, and life experiences that are closely related to you. In the initial stage of emotional development, information exchange is indispensable.

If he hopes to have a long-term relationship with you, he will be interested in everything about you and will use this basic information to understand you and integrate into your life.

If he only wants to sleep with you, then he has no energy or interest in understanding these basic details about you, because besides you, there are other women around him, and he is constantly casting a wide net to catch fish. If his goal is to sleep with you, then your basic information is of no use to him.

2. Whether he openly shares his basic situation with you

I have received inquiries from some girls, asking about the man’s background, hobbies, and occupation, but they got no answers. Usually, in this situation, it can be 99% certain that they have encountered a deceitful man. We must remember: Information exchange lays the foundation for a relationship.

A man who truly wants to develop a romantic relationship with you will actively share all his information with you, eager to tell you about all his experiences. He wants you to understand and integrate into his life.

For those men who conceal their basic information, they must have a purpose for doing so. Perhaps they already have a partner or are even married. The more they hide from you and the less they reveal, the more problematic this person is.

3. Whether he integrates you into his social circle

If he wants to develop a long-term romantic relationship with you, he will introduce you to his friends and publicly acknowledge your relationship in his social circle after it is confirmed. A man who loves you can’t wait for everyone to know that you are together. He will constantly share the sweetness of being with you and tell the whole world that you are his girlfriend.

If he never publicly acknowledges your existence in his social circle, and you have never met any of his friends, then you should be cautious in this situation. He may be deceiving your feelings. The only reason for not daring to acknowledge your existence is that he thinks it will cause trouble in his life.

4. Whether he cares about the small details of your life

The small details of life best reflect a person’s level of care for you. A man who wants to develop a long-term romantic relationship with you will surely remember all your habits, what you like and dislike. For example, when eating, he will remember that you don’t like coriander and chili, and he will remind you of it.

5. Whether he frequently goes out of touch suddenly

In today’s fast-paced society, it is normal to be too busy to reply to messages sometimes. But a person who cares about you will always be thinking about you, sharing his life with you at all times. He will tell you before and after being busy, to avoid you worrying and to give you a sense of security.

If he only wants to sleep with you, then he will feel that your feelings are not that important, no matter how much you think about him. So he will frequently ignore your messages. Especially for deceitful men who cast a wide net, they have so many messages that they can’t possibly reply to all of them.

6. Whether you are part of his future plans

Here, future plans can be long-term plans, such as future career and family plans, or short-term daily plans, such as arrangements for each date and travel plans.

If he has already planned where you will buy a house in the future, how to arrange the wedding, what name your children will have, and how to deal with long-distance issues; if he arranges every date properly and has made thorough preparations for your travels, then he is the person worth investing your feelings in.

On the contrary, those who have no plans for your future, or whose plans only include themselves and not you, indicate that you are not particularly important in his heart.

Suggestions for Women

1. When you have a good impression of a man you just met, you must exchange basic information. Information exchange is the foundation of a relationship.

2. During the dating process, do not have too high expectations of the other person. Treat the other person as you would a normal friend.

3. When encountering emotional problems, do not ask your girlfriends; you should ask male friends of similar age, because men understand men the best.

4. During dates, observe his eyes more and learn to feel with your heart. A person’s mouth can lie, and body language can be deceptive, but the eyes cannot be faked.

5. In case you unfortunately confirm that you have encountered a deceitful man, do not hesitate to delete him as a friend. He will begin to doubt his own value.

6. The simplest and most effective way to identify a deceitful man: repeatedly ask him to do a relatively difficult task for you. For example, ask him to bring you medicine late at night. If he willingly does it and does it perfectly every time, then he is a suitable person to date.