How Long Can Men Endure Long-Distance Marriage? The Answers of 3 Men Are Very Realistic
They say, “Home cannot hold the body, and faraway places cannot hold the soul.” With the development of society, the speed of development between cities and rural areas is seriously unbalanced. Many people choose to work away from home in pursuit of better material conditions.
Working in developed cities has many benefits, such as exposure to a broader world, learning new things, making more friends, having better development opportunities, and being able to earn more money for a better material life for themselves and their families. So, many people leave their hometowns to work elsewhere.
However, working away from home also has many drawbacks. For example, being far from home, not being able to rush back in time when something happens at home, rarely seeing family members, missing them even more during festivals, being unable to take care of parents when they need it, and children becoming left-behind children.
We are very aware of these drawbacks, but every year, many people still go out to work, and the Spring Festival has become a major characteristic of China. Despite their reluctance, families still see off their loved ones when they go to work far away.
Working away from home has also brought about many social problems, affecting family harmony. Long-term work away from home forces many couples to be separated for a long time, which is a great test for their relationship.
Long-term separation is not conducive to the relationship between husband and wife. Being apart for a long time makes it difficult for them to see each other, understand each other’s feelings, rush to each other when needed, stay in touch in a timely manner, or even give each other a hug. There is so much heartache in this situation, only those who have experienced it can understand.
So, how long can men endure long-term long-distance marriage? The answers of three men are very realistic.
I. John said, “About a month, and I start to worry when I haven’t seen her.”
I don’t know if this is a common problem for men. Regardless of who is older, men tend to have a bit of chauvinism, thinking that they must take care of women. Even if their wives don’t need anything, they still feel the need to prepare everything at home before leaving for work.
John is this kind of person. Although his wife is capable and a great help at home, he still worries. He has to go home to see his wife and children every month. Fortunately, it’s convenient for him to drive, but his wife and parents always ask him not to come back unnecessarily since he doesn’t have much time to rest. It’s exhausting to spend most of his time on the road, and when he finally gets back, he has to start working again without much rest, but he just won’t listen.
We can understand people like John who miss home. No matter how good things are outside, they can’t compare to the air, soil, and food at home.
II. David said, “I’ll see how things go, but usually I go back to be with my wife and children during holidays.”
David has been married for several years and has been working in Zhejiang since he graduated. The income and benefits there are much better than in his hometown, with more job opportunities. He is familiar with the place and has been developing his career there since he got married.
Although his family suggested that he return to his hometown, he plans to go back in a few years when he’s older.
Working in the factory there includes meals and accommodation, and he can save some money compared to working in his hometown. It’s just a bit far from home, and he can only go back to see his family during holidays.
But he says he’s satisfied, as there’s no gain without pain. However, his hometown has been developing well in recent years, and he’s considering going back to work there, which makes his family very happy.
III. Michael said, “I can’t endure even a day.”
Michael is the kind of person who misses his family so much that he feels the house is empty without them. So, he and his wife discussed and decided to live together in the city with their whole family, renting a clean and affordable house in the suburbs. It’s like a second home in the city for the whole family.
It’s not easy to work outside. Everyone wants to go home to have a hot meal and be with their children, wife, and family. A complete family is the most important. Seeing the smiles of the family, he feels that all the hardships are worth it, no matter how tough and tiring the day may be.
It’s a bit troublesome to commute to work, taking a bus and then the subway, and then another bus, which leaves little time for rest. However, he has decided to buy a second-hand car for commuting, which will make things much more convenient.
In fact, sometimes we don’t ask for much, but life always has many helplessness. You can’t have both the fish and the bear’s paw, but there’s always a way. As long as we are willing to work hard, we can have bread and a house.
Humans are social animals, and we cannot live alone for a long time. Most of the time, we still long to live a lively life with our family.
Long-term long-distance marriage is very unfavorable. If possible, try not to be apart. A complete family is a blessing. Work is meant to make life better, so if work makes you give up your life, what’s the point of work? What do you think?
I hope that society will continue to develop for the better, allowing more people to find satisfactory jobs in their hometowns, and not endure the pain of leaving home. Let every family be together and end the suffering of long-distance love for couples all over the world.
