Facing Emotional Betrayal, You Need to Find Inner Strength
When emotional betrayal occurs, a person’s inner self is actually weak and powerless. On one hand, the betrayal hurts the soul; on the other hand, it makes you feel hopeless about the future.
So, no matter what the outcome of this emotional experience is, the first thing to resolve is the issue of inner energy. In other words, how can you inject energy into your inner self and make yourself strong enough to face all this?
You might have thought, “It’s no big deal,” or “Everything will pass,” even if only briefly, after being betrayed. This means that if you can find and stabilize this state, you’ll be able to stabilize your energy.
In fact, there are many books and articles about finding inner strength, like “finding inner light.” However, too many theories can become useless chicken soup that can’t generate power.
So, how can you find inner strength? The following are practical and operational solutions that can make you powerful.
Ensure Basic Physical Health.
A person’s mental state is closely related to their physical health, which is a very basic principle. However, many people suffer from emotional betrayal, and as a result, they can’t eat, sleep, or do anything, which means their physical health is not guaranteed, and neither is their mental health.
In response, start by eating well and sleeping well. Some people might not be able to do this, so they need to force themselves to eat, even if they don’t feel like it. Take digestive aids if necessary. If they can’t sleep, they should try to lie down, listen to soothing music, or exhaust themselves through exercise during the day to help them sleep better at night. Try not to take sleeping pills, as they can be addictive.
It’s also important to allow your body to rest when it’s tired. This is a good time to take a break, even if it’s just for a few minutes.
Why is it essential to ensure basic physical health? Because it’s the simplest thing to do, and if you can’t even do this, it’ll be harder to tackle more challenging tasks later on. Moreover, emotional betrayal can be draining, so nutrition and physical health are crucial. Without a healthy body, you won’t have a clear mind—if you don’t rest well, you’ll be dizzy and disoriented the next day.
Connect with the Outside World.
After being betrayed, people often tend to isolate themselves, fearing social interactions. This is a complex psychological structure that we won’t delve into here.
However, to recover quickly, you need to change this self-enclosed state, as it won’t help solve the problem and will only make things worse. It can even lead to depression and anxiety.
So, you must hold onto two thoughts: first, interacting with society can benefit you and help you recover; second, you must force yourself to go out.
During this phase, try to connect with the outside world, participate in social gatherings and activities with friends and colleagues, and invest more time and energy into your work. You can gain a lot of energy from these sources.
Find Someone Who Can Provide Energy.
When your inner strength is weak, finding someone who can provide energy can greatly help you recover and solve problems. This person is hard to find, but they should have a strong sense of justice, rich life experience, and a genuine willingness to help you.
When you’re feeling down, find this person, whether it’s to talk to them or seek their guidance. Some people might consider seeking a therapist, but therapists have limitations—they can’t provide timely help, and it’s hard to find one who truly cares about you.
So, make an effort to find someone like this around you. Don’t worry about bothering others at this critical moment.
Read Some Guiding Books.
To avoid suspicion of advertising, I’ll just mention that there are three types of books: those that analyze marriage and emotions, those that analyze life, and Buddhist books.
Reading the right books can be very helpful, as they’re often written by people who have experienced similar things and have summarized their experiences. Buddhist books, in particular, can help people let go of their worries and troubles.
On the other hand, try to avoid reading too many confusing articles on social media, as they often lack depth and have problematic values. They can confuse you and make you more anxious.
