Encountering Infidelity, It Can Be a New Starting Point in Life
Encountering betrayal in a relationship can indeed affect the course of one’s life, but such impact may not always be negative. While enduring the pain and torment at the moment, many people have actually embarked on a new journey through the baptism of betrayal.
Looking at it from a different perspective, without the betrayal, many people might have led a monotonous life, following the same routine every day, seemingly stable but lacking passion and vision for the future. Days passing by in repetition, just waiting to grow old.
Betrayal shatters the tranquility of one’s life.
Once you experience betrayal in a relationship, it plunges you into an all-encompassing unease. This unease affects every aspect like emotions, marriage, family, life, and the future. Nothing seems certain, and it’s not just a simple emotional wound.
Often, when interpreting the harm caused by betrayal, what truly unsettles you is not just the betrayal itself but the loss of control over your current situation and the uncertainty about the future.
Many rush to reconcile, thinking that once the other person comes back, everything will go back to normal, and their unease will vanish. However, it’s not as simple as imagined.
For many, once the betrayal occurs, it’s hard to turn back; even if reconciliation happens, the inner unease persists because it’s challenging to trust someone who betrayed you to truly care for your happiness and future.
Betrayal, from another perspective, is breaking a habit. Before the betrayal, your relationship and marriage were a habit that created dependency. Now that the betrayal has shattered this habit, you feel uneasy, unaccustomed to the lack of loyalty, losing your dependency, and facing a betrayer, leading to distance and distrust in the relationship.
After breaking an old habit, a person feels extremely uncomfortable. It’s like forcing someone who loves to sleep in every day to wake up before dawn—a change that is hard to endure and painful for a while.
However, many people start awakening after seeing the “real issues” post-betrayal. The past life, like being buried in dust, gets a clean sweep from betrayal, allowing you to see a new, radiant self.
You begin to redefine the meaning of marriage and relationships, understanding that they are not guardians of happiness but vehicles for experience and growth.
Life may feel incomplete without experiencing love, marriage, and family. If you encounter happiness in relationships, cherish it; if faced with unhappiness, love yourself, strive to overcome the adversity, whether cherishing or overcoming challenges, it’s all part of growth.
When an old habit breaks, it marks the beginning of a new one.
Since others cannot be your dependency anymore, you must learn to rely on yourself in every aspect. Transitioning from relying on others to relying on oneself is a fundamental shift that requires strength—economic and emotional—that can only come through effort.
Facing betrayal, the common advice of independence and self-reliance holds true. Bringing back someone who betrayed you, even if they change and become loyal, pales in comparison to relying on yourself. It’s like choosing between someone giving you money daily or earning the same amount by yourself—most would choose the latter.
So, facing betrayal, with your willingness and effort, you can turn things around, changing the bad into good. While the outcome of a relationship may not be favorable, it could still benefit your entire life.
Encountering betrayal in relationships is another starting point in life. It all depends on your ability to change direction and set sail against the wind.
