Don’t Turn Yourself Into Someone You Hate in a Relationship

In a relationship or marriage, whether it’s good or not is not hard to figure out. It all boils down to whether you like yourself in that relationship or hate yourself.

A good intimate relationship nurtures your inner self. You keep receiving positivity in this relationship, gradually enjoying it more, and of course, liking yourself more.

Your appearance reflects your emotions and happiness. Those who are nourished by love always have a smiling face.

A good relationship involves mutual nurturing, growth, mutual appreciation, and self-like.

On the flip side, toxic and unhealthy emotional relationships breed mutual resentment and self-loathing. If the quality of intimacy is low, even with an easy life, you can end up miserable and unhappy, like a wealthy lady with loneliness deep inside.

Prolonged pain and unhappiness lead to behavioral changes such as being irritable, moody, narrow-minded, and sensitive, eventually leading to self-loathing. You realize you dislike this version of yourself but feel powerless to change.

Being aware of self-hatred is a wake-up call. Many only realize their past self-hatred after the relationship ends.

If you naturally have a melancholic or angry personality before entering a relationship, that’s one thing. But if you were once positive and lively but now feel dull, unhappy, and dislike yourself, it’s a red flag that the relationship may be the cause.

Why do people start hating themselves in a relationship?

Firstly, they can’t be their true selves. Sacrificing oneself and yielding to others in a relationship may sustain it superficially but leads to unhappiness.

Secondly, they lack the ability to change things. Unhappy marriages offer two options: change the other person or change yourself. However, attempting both often ends in disappointment, leading to self-loathing.

Relationships are a shared responsibility, not a solo act. If you find yourself increasingly disliking who you are, it’s crucial to analyze the root cause and work towards self-appreciation.

You should always remember that the purpose of a relationship or marriage is your happiness, not to confine yourself or change into someone unrecognizable or detestable.

If despite your efforts, things don’t improve, ending the relationship might be the best choice. This way, you can have a chance to rediscover your confident and radiant self.