Don’t Be Too Sentimental in Middle Age
In the TV series “Love’s Centimeter,” Lan Qiaoqiao is a cunning woman who takes advantage of Chen Zhijun’s emotional vulnerability. Chen Zhijun is unhappy with his wife, Guan Duoyun, because she is too focused on her family. Lan Qiaoqiao sees an opportunity and pretends to care for Chen Zhijun, making him feel loved. She then asks him for money, claiming her father is ill and needs medical treatment. Chen Zhijun believes her and gives her the money. Eventually, he wants to divorce his wife and be with Lan Qiaoqiao, only to realize he has been deceived.
It’s truly pitiful. As people reach middle age, most marriages enter a period of fatigue, making it easy to fall prey to temptations like Chen Zhijun’s.
In middle age, one must not be overly sentimental. Some emotions are destined to be mistakes from the start. If you persist, you’ll only end up with “nothing gained and nothing lost.”
The First Kind: Past Romance
Since it’s a past emotion, it’s already become a thing of the past. Even if it’s the same two people, who can still maintain their initial appearance after experiencing various things?
The world is changing, and people are growing older. Our inner selves have already undergone significant changes, and no one stays in the same place, waiting for you. If you can’t let go, you’ll only hurt yourself and others.
Some people will lock their past emotions deep in their hearts and never revisit them.
However, some people, especially in middle age, tend to intentionally seek out nostalgic memories, holding on to past emotions. This is because their lives have become stable, and their marriages have entered a peaceful period, making it difficult to rekindle passion.
Those who are overly sentimental are indeed very nice, but they don’t know how to let go of themselves and others, which is a disrespect to their marriages.
In middle age, most people have their own families and lives. Who didn’t have some regrets when they were young? It’s a normal part of life. Learning to balance your emotions is more important than anything else.
The Second Kind: Emotional Dependence on the Virtual World
The widespread use of the internet has made life more convenient, making the world smaller and communication easier.
Various social media platforms have emerged, allowing people to meet more strangers online. Some people find it easier to talk to strangers online than to those around them.
Gradually, the virtual world has become a place for people to vent their emotions. After all, life can be overwhelming, and everyone wants to find a place to release their emotions.
However, excessive indulgence in online communication with strangers can lead to emotional misunderstandings. Especially between men and women, it can create unnecessary emotional entanglements.
Zhang Ailing said that men often feel lonely after middle age because they have no one to rely on, even though they are surrounded by people who depend on them.
In reality, middle-aged women are the same. They are busy with their families and work, but they don’t receive understanding.
Many people seek comfort online, even falling into emotional misunderstandings. They think the person who chats with them online is the only one who truly understands them.
When this emotion affects normal life, it can create marital crises. But is the person in the virtual world really your ideal type?
Probably not. People often attribute more beauty to things they can’t touch or see, ignoring the good things around them.
Falling into online infatuation, once the person appears in the real world, they may not be as perfect as expected.
Moreover, the internet hides many aspects of a person’s true self. Who knows what their true intentions are?
So, when faced with emotional confusion, communicate more with your partner or seek help from friends around you. Don’t try to escape reality by seeking emotional dependence in the virtual world, which can ultimately ruin your happiness.
The Third Kind: Infatuation with the Opposite Sex
Living in society, it’s inevitable to interact with the opposite sex. Sometimes, sparks can fly between people.
Humans have seven emotions and six desires, which is normal. However, if you’re already married, you should know how to control your emotions. After all, extramarital temptations can threaten the stability of your marriage.
Chen Zhijun in “Love’s Centimeter” is a perfect example. His marriage has problems, but instead of actively seeking solutions, he indulges in fantasies about his female subordinate, Lan Qiaoqiao.
He not only gives her money and gifts but also initiates a divorce with his wife, hoping to be with Lan Qiaoqiao. In the end, he realizes he’s been deceived and becomes a laughingstock.
In middle age, mature men can easily attract young women, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s true love.
If you can’t control yourself, you might lose everything because of extramarital affairs.
Some middle-aged women, due to the dullness of their marriages, may lose hope in life. Then, a charming man suddenly appears, and they can’t resist their inner desires, leading to extramarital emotions.
However, who knows that extramarital temptations are never a solution to emotional problems? If you persist, you’ll only end up hurt.
Marriage is about nurturing, not using another relationship to compensate for the shortcomings of the current one.
As people reach middle age, they’ve experienced life’s ups and downs and overcome difficulties with their partners. It’s not easy to walk together.
Learn to cherish the happiness you have and don’t let your impulses ruin your peaceful life.
Don’t always fantasize about passionate lives; that’s just an ideal state. In reality, no matter who you’re with, you’ll eventually settle into a mundane life.
Be realistic, and don’t take unnecessary risks. After all, every choice comes with a price.
Don’t think that love is more important than anything else. When you lose everything, it’s too late to regret.
Marriage is not easy, but cherish it.
