Dating: Smart Women Use Strategy, While Foolish Women Strive for Approval
“If you’re smarter, you’ll know to adapt to changes without being too proactive.”
Sometimes you put in a lot of effort but don’t get the expected return, and sometimes it’s just not worth it.
Women are easily hurt in relationships because they tend to invest all their efforts into love.
Women are emotional in love, while men are clear about what they want and not blinded by love.
So, women must remember to use some tactics when dealing with men. Being sincere in relationships is important, but sometimes, as the saying goes:
“Deep affection can’t always be kept, only strategies win hearts.”
Sometimes, women need to use some tricks to keep men interested and maintain control without being too proactive.
Spark Men’s Curiosity
When a woman uses strategy, she should understand not to act rashly and let her passiveness spark men’s curiosity.
In a relationship, if a woman is always proactive, the man will understand her character, and she will gradually lose her charm.
I remember a conversation I had with a guy in college. I told him:
“As long as you’re sincere and kind to someone, the man will surely treat you well.”
Unexpectedly, he turned to me and said:
“Kindness never guarantees kindness in return. Having curiosity makes you attractive to men.”
These words came from a man, and although I initially disliked them, I’ve come to accept them because many men think this way.
No matter how much a woman loves a man, she shouldn’t be too proactive. When you constantly try to please a man, he will easily judge the kind of person you are from your actions.
Once a man knows everything about you, he will lose interest.
The right women know that men who are not proactive will take the initiative with them. When you remain a mystery to a man, he will want to get to know you on his own.
It’s exhausting for women to always try to please men. Sometimes, letting men take the initiative to understand women can increase the mystery of love and benefit women greatly.
When a man takes the initiative to understand a woman, he also gains a lot of pleasure because traditionally, men pursue women, and it’s rare for women to pursue men.
Modesty is also Attractive
Men find women who lack modesty unattractive. A modest woman is highly appreciated by men.
Although many men hope for women to be affectionate towards them and show physical affection, in the process of dating, if a man finds his woman immodest, he will be disappointed.
Men all make the same mistake: they want others to have a liking for them but dislike their partners being immodest.
Modesty is crucial in heterosexual relationships.
“One day, you’ll realize that a woman’s modesty is more precious than dowry and talent.”
Therefore, modesty is very important for women. Women must remember not to be too proactive, as it can be seen as immodest by others.
When a woman learns to be shy in front of her husband or boyfriend, her partner will see her as a modest woman.
When a woman learns not to be proactive in front of her husband or boyfriend, her partner will also see her as a modest woman.
When a woman is too proactive towards men, it’s actually men who benefit greatly. However, men may think that if she treats me this way, she must treat other men the same.
Many times, men fail to understand a woman’s feelings. When a woman is very proactive towards a man, it shows her love, but men often mistake it for immodesty.
That’s why in today’s society, many women are kind to men, but men don’t appreciate it. If a woman is not good to a man, he will passionately pursue her.
Many people say that men like to distort right and wrong and don’t understand morality.
Because most men have this mindset, women who remain modest in front of men, and choose to be passive, will gain men’s attention.
Only when women stop being proactive and remain calm, men will take the initiative.
Stay Calm to Seize Control
Many people think that the one who is proactive in a relationship holds the power, but it’s actually the opposite.
When a woman is too proactive in a relationship, she ends up being passive.
A woman’s initiative can lead to a man’s arrogance, as the saying goes:
“Being favored makes one overconfident.”
The more a woman does for a man, the more proactive she is, the more confident the man becomes, thinking that the woman has already committed to him, so he won’t put in much effort.
In life, there are many instances where the more proactive a woman is, the less proactive the man becomes, leading to conflicts in the relationship.
Women must understand that sometimes they should refrain from being proactive in a relationship to avoid exhaustion.
The more one pays attention to being proactive in a relationship, the more tiring it becomes. However, the more proactive one is, the more indifferent the other person becomes.
In love, there’s a phenomenon called habit. When a man gets used to a woman being proactive towards him, he gets used to not being proactive towards her.
One day, after being in a relationship, you might realize that everything revolves around the woman, and she’s forced to take charge.
This kind of relationship is unhealthy, and no woman wants to be in such a situation.
It’s crucial to understand that when you remain calm and refrain from being proactive in a relationship, that’s when men will value you more.
In life, constantly pleasing others doesn’t guarantee their appreciation.
In relationships, women should be sincere towards their partners, but remember to use some tactics at times and not exhaust themselves by being overly kind.
Some women tend to give their all in their first relationship, only to lose faith in love after being hurt. When a woman loses faith in love, she becomes less proactive towards men, but surprisingly, many women find love during this time.
