Cheating Men’s Inner Monologue
“Cheating” is a word that’s condemned by society. But even though it’s strongly condemned, it still happens a lot.
To figure out why, I’ve talked to a bunch of men from different backgrounds and ages about it. The answers are pretty much the same: they cheat for different reasons.
But all those reasons can be boiled down to one thing: their own needs aren’t being met, so they look outside for a way to feel fulfilled.
When a man doesn’t get what he needs from his partner, he’ll try to find it somewhere else.
Let’s say a guy who wants to be accepted ends up with a woman who’s super picky. She doesn’t give him the acceptance he craves, and she even puts him down and makes him feel bad.
Then he meets a woman who accepts him, admires him, encourages him, and even worships him. Do you think he’s more likely to cheat then?
Women need to think of men like primitive animals. They lack self-control and want to protect their territory. To put it simply, men need to feel admired. They need respect and validation from their partners.
If they don’t get that feeling, they’ll start looking for a woman who will give it to them.
Cheating can be a habit or a one-time thing. Habitual cheating happens when someone has a lack of self-awareness or problems from their childhood that make them feel insecure.
That kind of cheating can only be fixed by working on yourself and realizing that what you’re doing is wrong.
Career-Driven Men
Let’s say a man is the sole provider for his family and takes care of all the financial stuff. The woman is a typical stay-at-home mom.
She dedicates all her time to the family, taking care of the house, the kids, and the elderly, but she doesn’t have a job.
If that kind of woman is with a “rock” guy, someone who’s kind of clueless and doesn’t have many needs, then their relationship is probably pretty good.
But if she’s with a “scissor” guy, things will be very different.
When a woman focuses all her attention on the family, she slowly loses herself. She doesn’t know what she needs, and she doesn’t understand what her man needs.
The whole relationship becomes bland and boring. Life is just a flat line with no ups and downs.
Over time, the man doesn’t get the emotional support or attention he needs, and the woman doesn’t understand his need for admiration and validation.
So, because his needs aren’t being met, the seeds of cheating are planted in his mind. He starts craving that feeling and looks for someone else who can give it to him.
If you find that you and your partner are struggling to communicate and the spark is gone, you need to think about whether you’re giving him the emotional support he needs.
Stay-at-home moms especially need men who admire them. They don’t have any income, so if a man no longer needs them emotionally or financially, it means they’re worthless to him. Everything they do can be replaced by a maid.
Dependent Men
This kind of man is super thoughtful and caring. He knows how to make his woman happy, spoils her, and even does housework.
There are two reasons for this: 1) He really loves her. 2) He’s grateful.
This kind of man usually comes from a less wealthy family than his partner, so he tries to make up for it by taking good care of her.
Since she grew up in a wealthy environment, she’s used to getting what she wants. If he doesn’t do things perfectly, she’ll blow up at him, insult him, and say hurtful things to make him feel bad, just to get her kicks.
After being put down over and over again, he doesn’t fight back like a normal guy. He avoids conflict and slowly starts to distance himself from her, even feeling repulsed by her presence.
Because he needs to feel validated, he seeks out other women to fill that emotional void.
It’s not that hard to keep a man faithful. Don’t become a “useless” woman, the kind that’s neither good nor bad, neither wanted nor missed.
Be a good wife and meet his needs. You can’t meet every need, but you have to meet the most important ones. Otherwise, you’re setting him up to cheat.
