Can You Tell If a Guy Is Marriageable by Having One Meal With Him?
Some people are just meant to be married, and you can tell right away. But when it comes to relationships, we often lack experience and get tricked.
I was chatting with the matchmaker in our village. She’s been a matchmaker since she was in her 20s, and she’s very well-known in our city.
My grandpa talked about her:
“When I married your grandma, I used this matchmaker. Back then, she was about my age.”
I once went to see the matchmaker with my grandpa. She told us you can tell if a guy is marriageable by having one meal with him.
I felt my boyfriend didn’t love me much, so I asked the matchmaker for advice. She smiled and said:
“You eat with your boyfriend every day, right? That means you have plenty of chances to get to know him. You can learn a lot about a guy during a meal. It’s enough time.”
I was young and inexperienced, so I was curious. I asked the matchmaker:
“How do you judge someone during a meal?”
She shared some of her experiences. Of course, they were all from her own life.
Guys Who Only Care About Themselves Are No Good
The matchmaker told me about a guy she tried to set up.
She was really good friends with his parents, so she put a lot of effort into finding him a girlfriend. But later on, she gave up because she didn’t want to ruin a nice girl’s life.
The girl said that whenever the matchmaker took him out on dates, he only cared about himself. He never thought about his date.
One time, the matchmaker found a really beautiful girl. She sat her next to the guy and tried to create some opportunities for them to connect. But every time they ate together, the guy just cared about himself. When they ordered food, he only ordered what he liked, never considering his date’s preferences.
Another time, the matchmaker set him up with a very innocent girl. But it was another failure. When they ate together, he only cared about himself. The girl felt awkward and said she needed to use the bathroom. She never came back.
People said this guy probably had a rough time with relationships and that he hadn’t met the right person yet. But the matchmaker said:
“If a guy only cares about himself during a meal, he’s not worth marrying.”
The matchmaker said that couples need to eat together every day. If a guy only cares about himself during meals, his wife will probably get the short end of the stick.
Cheap Guys Are Not Respectable
The matchmaker told us another story:
A guy asked her to find him a girlfriend, but he was always super cheap when they ate together. He always wanted to split the bill.
One time, the matchmaker introduced a girl to him. They liked each other, but the guy snuck out of the restaurant after pretending to go to the bathroom when the bill came.
The girl was upset and didn’t want to be with him anymore.
The matchmaker told us that the girl had a good reason to reject him. Even though she liked him at first, his behavior changed her mind.
Later, the guy tried to ask the girl out again, but she ignored him. The matchmaker said that women should be decisive like this girl. You can’t be with a guy who acts like this.
The matchmaker said:
“If a guy skips out on the bill, even if he likes you, you shouldn’t be with him. He’s not respectable. If he does this to you, he’ll do it to others.”
So, if you’re on a date and notice the guy is really cheap, it doesn’t matter if you met through a friend or if you’re dating freely. You shouldn’t be with him.
Women often complain about their boyfriends being cheap. They don’t know whether to stay with them. When a woman is hesitant, she should trust her gut. If you have doubts about a guy, you probably won’t have a happy future together.
Even if you force yourself to stay together, you’ll probably feel resentful. Because if he’s cheap about food, he’ll probably be cheap about clothes, entertainment, and everything else. You’ll feel miserable.
You can actually tell if a guy is husband material by having one meal with him. Food is essential, so if you want to test a guy, don’t make a big deal out of it. You’ll just make him uncomfortable.
Instead, pay attention to his behavior while eating. You can judge him by what he does and how he acts during a meal.
