Being Overly Critical is Always the Biggest Taboo in Marriage
Marriage is the continuation of love, but it’s also quite different from love. In marriage, there’s a lot of mundane stuff like daily necessities and trivialities. It’s not easy to manage a relationship, and it’s even more challenging to manage a marriage.
Many people, after enduring several years of courtship, finally step into marriage and the family they’ve long dreamed of. However, as the ordinary days pass by, the passion gradually fades, and married life becomes increasingly dull.
Many people think that everything will be fine once a family is established. Many believe that as long as they get through the challenges of courtship, they’ll be set for life. However, they don’t realize that marriage is much harder than courtship.
In reality, marriage isn’t so scary. It requires mutual effort to last. Many people find it hard to move forward and feel trapped because they’ve fallen into major taboos in marriage.
Being overly critical and disdainful is always the biggest taboo in marriage.
Whether you admit it or not, you have a lot of hidden or explicit criticism and disdain for your partner. Sometimes this manifests in the form of blame and complaints, and sometimes it’s conveyed through silent disappointment or distancing.
In fact, many people can’t even start a relationship or enter into marriage because they can’t handle their own criticism and disdain for the other person.
The main reasons for being disdained include:
Not being outstanding enough
Not being decisive enough
Not being diligent enough
Not being interesting enough
Not being tolerant enough
… Being overly critical is especially common in marriage and parent-child relationships. It’s also a sign that we’re increasingly impatient. We wouldn’t have been furious about our partner not doing the laundry or excessively blame our children for staining their clothes in the beginning, but over time, we lose that patience.
In marriage, of course, there will be arguments and times when we can’t stand each other. But we must also learn to be considerate and patient with each other. Unreasonable criticism will only escalate conflicts. Only mutual compromise and understanding can lead to lasting relationships.
Marriages marked by disdain and criticism: In a good marriage, both partners appreciate each other; in a bad marriage, both partners criticize each other!
In a good marriage, both partners appreciate each other; in a bad marriage, both partners criticize each other!
If you can feel the beauty, it means your feelings for each other won’t stop there. Because of mutual appreciation, you can prove that you deeply love each other and don’t expect the other person to get tired of you one day.
In a good marriage, you weather the storms together.
In a bad marriage, it always starts with criticism, as only through criticism can disdain emerge, and it’s because of disdain that criticism arises.
Therefore, deliberate criticism eventually turns into disdain in the eyes of the other person, and over time, it may become genuine criticism and disdain.
So, don’t use critical words to joke about your partner, and don’t use them to prove how much you love your partner. Ultimately, the proof will only turn into evidence of your lack of love in the eyes of your partner.
Mutual love and understanding, growing old together.
Upon careful observation, the couples who have a better relationship after marriage never gossip about each other.
They don’t say anything negative about each other, not even to each other, and hardly ever argue. This kind of people barely ever quarrel.
When faced with problems, they share the responsibility and solve them together, encouraging each other to become better individuals.
A good marriage is truly about mutual appreciation. Only through mutual appreciation can we feel how wonderful we are to each other.
As the old saying goes: “Ignorance is bliss,” and it holds some truth.
No one is perfect, and there’s no such thing as a perfect marriage. The essence of marriage is companionship, not a game of cards. Everyone hopes to find a partner who’s a bit more handsome (or beautiful), a bit wealthier, and a bit gentler, but there’s no perfect person, not even a deity, let alone a mortal.
Being overly critical will make you lose more than you gain.
Some say that although marriage is the death of love, without it, you’d die with your eyes open. Facing marriage, those who are overly critical often find it hard to be happy.
Never be too critical of your partner in public, as the more critical you are, the less happy you’ll be.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Marriage is a partnership, so don’t always be so picky and petty. Even as a couple, neither of you owes the other anything. If you’re always nitpicking, who can stand that?
When you’re together, why be so calculating? Solve problems promptly and move on. A family should continue to live in harmony.
That’s the most touching happiness in life!
May all lovers eventually become lifelong partners.
