After Divorce, Who Will Regret—Men or Women? Different Answers from Men and Women
When it comes to marriage, we all start with beautiful expectations. However, marriage is full of ups and downs. Not many men and women can truly understand its essence and still be willing to persevere.
Those who have divorced think they can choose another way of life and feel liberated.
However, not everyone feels liberated after divorce. Sometimes, divorce is a regret for someone. Given the chance, who wouldn’t want a happy and fulfilling family? Who would choose divorce as the outcome unless absolutely necessary?
In the story of “Charlotte’s Troubles,” it tells a tale about novelty. Charlotte was a failure, but even though he was broke and jobless, his wife still supported him.
At one point, he spent the money meant for his wife’s electric bike on a bet to save face. He criticized his wife while taking advantage of her love.
In the end, he dreamed that he was back in high school, chasing after the school beauty from his student days. Yet, after marriage, he wasn’t happy and started missing his wife’s goodness.
Through this story, we understand that novelty is fleeting. The one willing to be by your side unconditionally is the one truly worth cherishing.
Many couples are lovey-dovey before marriage, but after tying the knot, they choose to part ways due to life’s trivialities.
Many believe that divorce will bring liberation, but that’s not always the case. Impulsive decisions to divorce can lead to regrets when one realizes that understanding and respecting each other is crucial for a lasting and happy relationship.
Who will regret after divorce—men or women? In reality, they each have different answers.
Lauren, 32, divorced for two years
We met in college and decided to marry after graduation. At first, we struggled financially and lived in a small rental apartment. Despite the hardships, I felt happy with him. With our efforts, life improved. But I realized our love had faded.
His care for me lessened, and my complaints grew. We argued over trivial matters. After our child was born, our relationship grew colder. We became strangers, even sharing a bed without words.
I felt aggrieved in this marriage. Despite numerous discussions, nothing changed. We eventually divorced impulsively.
Two years post-divorce, I feel guilty seeing other kids with both parents during holidays. I wish we hadn’t rushed into divorce. I share my story to caution against hasty marriage decisions, which not only hurt each other but also our children.
Wang, 30, divorced for a year
We were married for five years, thinking we’d be happy. But life’s pressures strained us. Our arguments increased, and our love faded. I worked long hours, she cared for the kids, and she complained about my absence.
I felt burdened and ignored her complaints. Work introduced me to a kind woman, different from my wife. We crossed a line, and my wife found out, leading to divorce.
Initially, divorce felt liberating, but post-divorce, I missed the warmth of home. I tried to reconcile, but it was too late. I accept this as my punishment for my mistakes in the relationship.
In real life, conflicts are inevitable in marriage, but we shouldn’t abandon the one who’s always been there for us due to temporary arguments. Resolve conflicts instead of escalating them with arguments.
Life isn’t smooth sailing, but facing it together leads to happiness. As Romain Rolland said, the greatness of marriage lies in mutual love and faithfulness. If lost, what remains besides convenience?
Only those who understand this can truly grasp the essence. Marriage’s greatness lies in mutual dependence, respect, and understanding. Don’t hastily choose love, but if you find happiness, cherish it dearly.
