10 Signs of Secret Crush, Do You Have It?
When you have a secret crush on someone, you often doubt your feelings, wondering if the flutter in your heart is just a simple fondness or real love. But the bittersweet feeling inside is so real… Secret crushes can really be quite vexing! Especially when you’re still unsure about your feelings. Instead of agonizing over it, let’s see if you have the signs of love!
- You develop strange new hobbies
When you’re fascinated with someone, you hope for a chance to chat more with them and long for them to know about your shared interests. So, when you unintentionally discover their hobbies, you become obsessed with them, enjoying books you can’t understand and music you used to dislike.
- Suddenly, your perspective changes
Just as mentioned above, you want to sync with them. Since you’ve developed a secret crush, things you used to dislike suddenly seem reasonable if they happen to like it. For example, you didn’t like people with single eyelids, but now you find it attractive because they do!
- You become curious about their past
Because you’re interested in them, any information about them becomes valuable. When friends mention them, even though you pretend not to care, you unconsciously want to ask more. You even want to meet their friends to learn more about their past.
- You become a “stalker”!
Aside from frequently checking their social media, you continuously search for anything related to them—their Facebook, Instagram, events they’ve attended—you follow every clue. Now, finding out about someone is so easy, and you’re unknowingly turning into a cute little “stalker”!
- Going to great lengths to create “coincidental” encounters
At a party, you see them about to throw away an empty bottle, so you quickly down half a cup of drink and walk out with them. Or knowing they like to have lunch at a certain restaurant, you wait there pretending it’s a coincidence. Yep, that’s you!
- You manage to bring up their name in any conversation
No matter if friends are debating life goals or whether tofu pudding is better salty or sweet, you always find a way to steer the conversation to them, or completely ignore what others are saying, trying to talk about them, earning numerous surprised or scornful looks.
- Zero communication equals zero mood
If you usually exchange messages, you start to keep track. If there’s no communication in a day, you feel like something’s missing, losing motivation and mood, but you don’t want to initiate the conversation, fearing you might disturb them, so you swallow your words.
- Pretending not to care
In front of your suspected crush, you act like you’re not particularly interested, but as soon as they turn away, you’re eager to find them. Believe in yourself, after all, the body is honest.
- You become silly and naive
Your mind is filled with thoughts of them, and a happy smile appears for no reason. Sending them a message makes you grin from ear to ear; encountering them makes you nervous. Even if you have three days’ worth of work to finish in three hours, you can’t help but sneak a peek at their social media.
- When you ask yourself, “Do I like them?”
What’s with the uncertainty! If you didn’t like them, why would you have such doubts? Would you ask, “Do I like that uncle selling soy milk on the street?” Obviously, if you don’t like someone, you wouldn’t have these doubts. Your hesitation indicates you’re already smitten! “I think I might like them a little…” Secret crushes are always poetic, although the process is often more nerve-wracking than joyful. But sometimes, this feeling becomes a memory of “those years.” Everyone has experienced a secret crush, some are just better at hiding it than others. The main reasons for not confessing are mostly the fear of losing the friendship if rejected and concerns about saving face. In fact, if you love them, seize the opportunity, take the initiative, and grasp love! Because making an effort and facing potential regret is often more positive than doing nothing. Who knows, you might have an unexpected love harvest!
